Another death in the family

jtr1962

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Unfortunately, threads like this are getting to be a regular thing for me. :( Our cat Suzette passed away at 5:45 PM this past Thursday(July 24). She was a beautiful Persian with a sweet disposition, and she enjoyed the same type of special relationship with my mother that I did with Tiger. Three years ago the vet had practically said her condition was hopeless and everything was shutting down but we managed to keep her alive with tapazole(which Tiger had also taken for the four years before she died), some homeopathic medicines, yogurt, and cantaloupe(which she loved). Although she hadn't been able to jump very high for a few years she was otherwise alert and in relatively good health. The last two weeks she seemed to be gaining a bit of weight. It turns out this was likely fluid buildup. On the last day of her life she seemed very weak and could hardly walk. When we bought her to the vet to have her condition checked she had seizure of some sort in the waiting room and died. The vet said either her heart or liver failed, probably as a side effect of the medication and hyperthyroidism. Because she hadn't been in the best of health for a long time I eventually expected something like this. Nonetheless, I'm going to miss her quite a bit. She was 16 years and 3 months old. You develop quite a bond during that time.

Needless to say, I won't be my normal self for quite a while. It seems Suzy's death opened some old wounds for me. It was the same type of hot, miserable day as when Tiger died, and she passed right while I was holding her, just like Tiger. If I'm not around here much for the next few weeks I just wanted to let everyone here know why. I still haven't come to terms with Tiger's death, and now I'm back to square one. :cry:

Lucky, who was from the same litter as Tiger, is the last survivor. I hope I won't be posting another thread like this for a few years, although given that she'll be 16 in August that may not be realistic.
 

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I hate to hear about someone losing a beloved pet. It sounds silly to people who don't have an animal living in their homes, but the bonds we form with our cats and dogs are very different and very personal from those we form with people. Maybe because they understand so little of what we say, and we so little of what they tell us (but they do tell us things! My cats have a little trill of greeting they use when I come home from work, or when I wake up, and a vastly different chirp that means "I see you are eating noodles. I would like to play with, then eat some.", or the yowl of "This book you are reading offends me. I think I will chew on it.")... I think in part our bond comes from the things we share, even without really understanding.

I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you jtr. There is very little in life that is as good as a satisfied purr. I'm sure Suzette will be missed.
 

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This thread made me sad as I share your grief by remembering my dog who recently passed. It really is tough for someone to understand the loss of a pet unless they have gone through the same situation as you. Our pets grow up with us, they grow old with us, unfortunately they don't live as long as us. We spend so much time with them and it comes to a point they are no longer our pet...they are our family.

I'm sorry to hear of your sad news, jtr. Your home may be a bit quieter for some time, but perhaps as time goes on, and your wounds heal, you may be able to take on another member to your family. Despite the odds given on Suzette in the early years, she survived for a great number of years and probably had the best possible life because you loved and cared for her.
 

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I'm sorry to hear about your pet as well.

I suggest you buy another cat, or animal, as quickly as possible.

The freshness of a young animal dispells the grief and horror of death, and refocuses you on the beauty, and wonder of renewed life.

My upstair neighbor just lost his 20 year companion dog, and his grief, as I'm sure yours, is truly terrible.

I wish you the best, and God Bless both you, and your cat.

Sincerely,

Gregory Santilli
 

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Yes definitely get another cat as soon as possible, makes things easier. One can never replace a loved one, but starting a new adventure takes the mind off the past.

I guess the beautiful thing about a pet is their unconditional love for you. No mind games (well maybe with some cats!).

Sorry to hear of your loss jtr.
 

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jtr,

Sorry to hear of your loss. I know exactly how you feel as I just lost one of my cats last month to lymphatic cancer. He too died in the Vets waiting room, yet sadly mine experienced a rather unpleasant death. I was not present, and this is a source of anger for me because I am certain that had I taken him into the clinic, he would not have passed away like he had - nor on that day for that matter. I guess even if I had been there and the very circumstances didn't occur, I know that he didn't have long to live ... yet still, I just wish he could have passed on peacefully. He was a great cat and is missed.

CK
 

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My brother put up Suzy's picture. This was taken a few months ago:

suz.jpg
 

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Man, there comes a point where quality of life becomes an issue. I know you have a strong attachment to your pet, but you have to think about what the pet would want, and not yourself.
 

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Merc, you're exactly right that our relationship with our pets is special because we don't understand literally what they are saying to us, yet they somehow get the message across. Suzy had her own repertoire of sounds, as did Tiger. Over time I knew when they were hungry, happy, sad, wanted attention, or were just plain happy to see me. And yes, almost nothing is as satisfying as seeing a cat lying there purring without a care in the world.

Greg and Pradeep, yes, we'll eventually get another cat(or two or three) but for now we've decided to let Lucky live out the rest of her life in relative peace. She isn't as sociable as the other two were so we don't know how she would take to a new member of the family. In time when the wounds heal we'll see life start anew, and we'll know when the time is right. Maybe one day we'll see a kitten or two abandoned by it's mother on our lawn and know this was meant to be.

Doug and CityK, I feel for your losses and I know from experience it'll take a long time before you feel better. You never really get over these things though. I know I'll still be thinking of Tiger, Suzy, and eventually Lucky, as well as Tabitha, Teddy, and Kimba, when I'm 100 years old. I know as long as something of them lives in me they'll never have really passed on.

Clocker and Jojo thanks for the thoughts. Pets are wonderful to have but very difficult to lose. I just think that one of the greatest inequities of life is that one human lifetime equals five or six cat lifetimes.
 
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