Mercutio said:
One more thing, while jtr continues to hate on the circumfrentially challenged (#6, specifically): Fat people are one of the few groups of people that it's still pretty much OK to mistreat. No one blatantly makes racist or sexist remarks any more, but I've had people, in professional settings, tell me to "lose some weight fatass", or ask me "how I let myself get like that."
It gets really fucking old. Walk a mile in my shoes before you talk about what I should or shouldn't look like, what I should or shouldn't eat.
I'm not one to just run around calling people names. My father is about 100 pounds overweight. My mother and I have explained to him numerous times why it would be good for him to lose weight, especially in light of the fact that he had a heart attack in 1989, and is essentially being kept alive by pills. He either doesn't want to hear it, or is incapable of changing his diet, and the fact that he seems (to me anyway) to be chronically depressed doesn't help. Maybe if he did something about his depression (which he won't even admit he has), the pounds would come off of their own accord. His mother was no lightweight, either, although I suspect in her case it was specifically to repulse men because she had been abused as a child, rather than because of depression. Anyway, she was 5'6" and an easy 325 pounds. Unfortunately, obesity runs on my father's side of the family.
Does depression cause weight gain? Most likely it can as the food replaces whatever is missing in your life. I have a cousin who has a combination of mental problems (schizophrenia, depression, low self-esteem, maybe a few more) who at one point reached 600 pounds. That's not a typo-and the guy is only 5' tall (my mother's side is really short, even the men, although she is a good height - 5' 2"). Anyway, given your other problems, I'm certainly not about to berate you for being overweight. You will be healthier and feel better if you lost weight, but in your present state that may be difficult or impossible. I've been fighting to get rid of 20 or 25 extra pounds myself, so I can symphathize with someone who has 100+ to lose. In fact, I have the dubious distinction now of being the fattest of my siblings. My sister was for most of her life (borderline obese), but now is a well-muscled 140 pounds (she's 5'6"), and my brother was always as thin as a rail (5'9", 138 pounds). I'm the same height but heavier even at my proper weight (160-165 pounds) because I have more muscle mass, but unfortunately my weight has been floating in the 180s for far too long. I lost five pounds because of the flu, and my stomach shrunk so I'm taking advantage of it with smaller portions. Hopefully sometime in the summer I'll be a proper weight, and then I'll just have to maintain it.
All that being said, there are plenty of people in this country with no mental problems or other excuses who are not only overweight, but in many cases twice what they should weigh. This is really what bothers me, not ten or twenty extra pounds. Besides the plethora of health problems that obesity causes, it just plain makes you look physically unattractive. I've seen and heard about obese people being depressed because they can't find a significant other, yet none have ever bothered to ask if perhaps their excessive girth was repulsive to the opposite sex, and maybe the reason why they have nobody. It becomes a vicious circle-you're fat because you're depressed and have nobody, but the reason you have nobody is because you're fat. And I'll even say this problem is worse for men than women. There are men who love fat women for whatever reason, but no significant numbers of women who like the way fat men look.
In closing I'd have to say that lack of physical activity is the major reason people are overweight. The human body is set up to make a diet of 3000 or so calories per day feel satisfying. Unfortunately, most people don't do near enough physical activity to burn that many calories (I only do when I cycle 20 miles a day, or do a lot of work in the garden, neither of which I do consistently). Therefore, we need to cut calories to about 2000 to 2500, but this doesn't satisfy us so we eat more and gain weight. In essence, we're fighting evolution. Having society set up so more people are forced to walk long distances to go about their business (i.e. less car use, more public transportation, more living in urban areas) would help quite a bit. Sure, there are obese people in NYC, but the percentage is a heck of a lot less than in suburban areas. Indeed, every time I watch something on suburban high schools, most boys and
every girl is overweight. In the city, the percentage of overweight kids is also increasing, but it's nowhere near this bad. Clearly something needs to be done on a national level besides making fat jokes (something I do not approve of).