Mercutio said:
The gross oversimplification of my problems stem from the fact that Amy just finished her 1st year of med school, her only time off she gets until she finishes her internship, and she's realized that she's never lived alone and, uh (and this is non-personal and non-specific as I can get), wants some different experiences.
I went through one of those right after leaving college. My gf of a couple of years wanted to date around to make sure. After about 3 months, she came back but I, who hadn't been interested in seeing others, had by chance reunited with a high school friend who eventually became the 1st, now ex, wife. So the gf lost out because she wanted to check out the grass on the other side of the fence.
OTOH, My best friend is getting married in July. His fiancee went through a little of that before they got serious. She wasn't sure yet, which at the time was understandable as they hadn't known each other for very long. Patience on his part & a wise choice on her part prevailed and, as mentioned, they are getting married in a few weeks.
I don't know any other couple who have (admitted to) gone though this so I comment on them. So, while it's not a great thing, the relationship cansurvive it and either way you will be emotionally stronger by the end of it.
The result for me is that I might have to move out of our apartment (hence a possible absence from the internet) until she decides if she wants me to be in her life or not. I'm trying to give her the space she needs, to not bother her or drive her away, while at the same time be supportive of whatever she decides. It's like walking an emotional tightrope.
The whole story is far, far more complicated. I've alternated between being physically ill and utterly numb all week. Participation on these forums keeps me occupied when I'm not working, though, which is probably a good thing.
I used to get physically ill over heavily emotional situations as well. Not so much anymore; I guess the logic side of my brain has too much control.
How's rent over in Aurora, Fushigi?
I bought this time. The mortgage sucks but we can swing it. Here's the house:
http://www.lakewoodhomes.com/Lmodel.asp?LBLPage=2&Model=50 There's just two of us plus a dog & cat so the place is overkill but neither of us were interested in starter homes. We've outfitted all but one bedroom but have nothing but bookcases in the living room (which we will use as a media library).
- Fushigi
