Most of the people I know haven't dated hundreds or even dozens of people. My sister married the second guy she ever dated, really the first since her other boyfriend was one of my brother's friends who actually kept hinting at him to go out with my sister. He was a complete asshole by the way, but my sister went out with him purely out of desparation since she had gone through high school and college without even getting asked out once. I've known people who married their school sweethearts so technically they may not even have dated at all.
Anyway, if the odds are that terrible I'd just as soon not bother. There aren't hundreds of people I'd consider "dateable" in the entire city, at least not by my standards, nor are there any situations I could put myself in to met hundreds of random people every day where it might be considered socially acceptable to start casual conversation. Like I said earlier, riding the subways is as good as it gets in that regard, but I'd probably be arrested if I attempted anything beyond asking someone for the time. And the places where it might be acceptable I just can't see myself going to. Bars and clubs are a waste of money I really don't have. I've browsed many Internet dating sites without really seeing anyone I could see myself hooking up with. I think Tannin is really on to something. Unless the person is highly attractive by my standards and also intelligent, I'd probably get more aroused just persuing some of my interests. I'd definitely find the average girl you might pick up anywhere for casual dating not terribly attractive and boring as all hell to talk to. I'd probably get more enjoyment spending time with one of my cats.
If anyone goes through hundreds of people dating my guess is they're very poor at filtering out the ones not worth a second look or even a hello. I've known people in relationships where their partner spelled trouble just by looking at them. A friend of mine married a Russian girl. It was pretty obvious to me and just about everyone except him that she was just after her citizenship papers. After a few months of ever escalating arguments they split. Now if this same girl had approached me, probably after 5 minutes I'd have told her to f*ck off. I suppose some are better at filtering out losers than others. I know many females have a mysterious sixth sense, or so they like to keep most guys thinking they do. Truth is by observing gestures, mannerisms, the way the person carries themselves, how often they blink their eyelids, etc. you can pretty much tell right away if a person is full of sh*t, often before they utter a word. Ditto for how they dress. Someone wearing lots of designer clothes, jewelry, prominently carrying a cell phone, etc. is likely a self-important, insecure person obsessed with external appearances. Again, someone not worth even a second look. I also love that since I'm aware of the cues many females use to size out guys I can avoid sending them those cues. Perhaps that's why I'm not approached by the opposite sex-they can't size me up until they spend lots of time getting to know me, so introducing themselves is a huge risk since their filtering mechanisms just don't work well with me. I might be the guy of their dreams or I could be Norman Bates. They just can't figure out which right away. Maybe udaman and Merc have the same problem since both are intensively introspective like me, and able to compensate for their faults.
The notion of extending myself really makes no sense, either. If the other person falls in love, will it be with me, or with that other person I'm pretending to be but can't? And vice versa. I think this is exactly why so many marriages fail-both parties pretended to be something they're not.
Maybe one of these days I'll write a book on this subject called "The Unrules", or such. Basically, it would be a treatise on why both sexes should throw all society's preconcieved notions of how the sexes interact out the window. I think all lifetime relationships should, indeed must, begin with the two of your becoming first friends, then good friends. The dating scene is counterproductive to that, and forces people to waste time/money being something their not.